There has been a lot of negativity around for the last month or so despite my best efforts. Not every day can be a good day. To try and counteract that a little bit I’ve been going through and updating my To Do lists on the Day Zero Project website.
The website was set up originally as a list site where people could create a list of all the things they wanted to do in a period of 1001 days and has blossomed into other areas such as 52 things to do in 52 weeks, Things to do by the age of 30/40/50 (or any special age of your choice) and finally a Someday list for those not wishing to commit to a timescale. It’s fun, it’s free to make the lists and it gives you the opportunity to think of lots of new ways to challenge yourself or commit to doing all the things you have always said you were going to do or the places you wish to go. The opportunities are only constricted by your own mind.
Being a list enthusiast I have lists in all four groups! It’s taken me moths to think of all 101 things to do. Some were easy – Join another book club, donate blood, make a new friend (Hi Helen!) Some will take time – Read a 100 books (no re-reads!) in 1001 days, Get to my target weight, visit a town or city in the UK beginning with every letter of the alphabet (If anyone knows of an X please feel free to let me know!!). Looking at the list I’ve got lots that revolve around reading 🙂 Some on the list are absolutely terrifying – Do the Jillian Michaels 30 day shred. I hate exercise so this one will be a massive challenge. But it will also tick off another on my list – do something out of your comfort zone. So it’s easy to do a couple of things in one go.
There are other lists to help you along, there is a game to play to choose between ideas which can also use to add to your own lists. It’s list heaven. Looking at the things I’ve completed, there are things I’ve done that others haven’t that maybe I take for granted. Small things (to me) like having my hair professionally coloured. I do that every other month but for someone else (you can have your lists public or private) it will be a luxury. Some have been chosen to make people feel better about themselves – open the door for someone, make a list of all the things you love about yourself, create a list of all the things that make you happy.
And then you can have things you don’t want to do – for me there’s no fast food for a month & no chocolate for a month. Not at the same time otherwise how would I ever live 🙂 Having not looked at it for a long while it was nice today to tick about 10 things off my list. It’s a lovely feeling to say you have achieved something and to move onto the next challenge.
Ok time to go brave the 30 Day shred DVD eek…
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09.01.14 – I first posted this back in July but as we are possibly going to read The Power of Now by Ekhart Tolle I thought I’d repost. We all need a bit of stillness in our lives now and again.
I was going to start this by talking about last nights visit to my first Stillness Group but I had an epiphany on the way to work that I want to share. I was in that great centre for spirituality – Greggs the bakers – buying my morning cup of tea when I caught a glimpse of me in a mirror and thought “I quite like you”. Now I have spent years looking at myself and comparing myself to others to the extent that I have become possibly my worst critic and a negative one at that. But lately I have been experimenting with clothes and found myself a lot more comfortable in my own skin. I used to hide behind black and for a long time have been hiding in trousers and baggy tops. I’m not wearing anything radical today, just a long skirt and top but I feel good and I feel ok with me. I’ve also cut a lot of my hair off going from a mid length bob to a style cut very short at the back and longer at the front. It suits me. I’m still the same person inside but I like her these days
I think last night’s ties in with this a little bit. I attended my first Ekhart Tolle Stillness group. The session is made up of 10 minutes stillness, followed by a DVD of one of Ekhart’s talks and then for those that can stay it ends with a 30 minute stillness session. I wasn’t sure what to expect but I managed to be still for the reiki session so I’m hopeful I can get through this.
Now I’ve mentioned before I most likely have undiagnosed ADHD. I can’t sit still. I struggle to stay focussed on anything for very long. I’m the girl who makes a lot of tea at work to allow me to be on the move. I was the girl who always finished her work early at school then spent the rest of my time distracting everyone else. I am not very good at watching TV, So I’m unsure if I can do this at all but I’m determined to have a go. It actually feels like meditation, I manage to clear my head of all thoughts except the thought that I’m not thinking. If that makes sense! You can hear everything around you – the children playing outside the centre, the tapping of the blinds on the window, the footsteps of a guy who came in a little late and the constant chomping of a guy eating boiled sweets. That became almost deafening in the silence. It’s a very similar feeling to when I tried the Reiki, the draining of all thought, the slowness of breathing, the feeling of peace. I have for many years tried to follow the teachings of Taoism but tended to fail on the meditation side of things. I am starting to feel now that maybe I just needed a little bit of guidance and I am going to try again on my own in my own house. Again it feels like a breakthrough.
I wanted to discuss the Ekhart Tolle talk as I took from it quite a few things but this blog would go on forever. I think I’m going to buy his book “The Power of Now” which the talk was based on to consolidate my learning and then come back to this with a more in depth write up.
But I’m learning to love the outer layer of me and learning to work with the inner me and that can never be a bad thing
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I got a bit giddy with the re-blog button. This was originally posted about 3 months ago.
It’s been a fairly quiet week; I’ve had one of my melancholy moods where I haven’t really been the life and soul of the party. But you know I’ve an epic battle of depression to beat – there’s bound to be off weeks.
I’ve still tried to do some new things this week though and stretch myself. Following on from a conversation at the previous weeks knitting club I started a list of 101 things to do in 1001 days. There are several websites out there that help you create these lists. The one I picked has the above 101 things plus several others such as Things to do by so-so age and in the next 10 years. Have you ever tried to set yourself 101 goals? I have enough problems normally trying to work out what I want to achieve that day! However with a bit of thought and with a bit of stealing other people’s ideas (it’s allowed!) I’m up to 71. I’ve got a few new crafts to learn like crochet and soap making plus exercise goals like running a charity race. Plus reading Stephen Kings Dark Tower series and Watch 26 movies beginning with each letter of the alphabet that I haven’t seen before. Should be fun so your goals can be whatever you wish them to be. I’ve 994 days left and completed one target – the 50 questions from my last post. It’d be nice to say I’ve completed the lot in the 2.5 years I have but who knows where life will take me in between that time??
This weekend should have been a pamper day at the local spiritual centre but the first day of spring in England brought a weekend of heavy snow and lots of bad jokes about it still being winter. There’s currently a Merry Spring postcard doing the rounds of Facebook complete with Santa’s sled. I hate the cold at the best of times even more when it interrupts my Spring!
I’d been looking forward to the pamper day, several treatments such as Indian Head massage and Reiki plus some tarot readings. But as my little housing estate was completely snowed in there wasn’t much we could do. Still the day wasn’t a total waste as I got to finish making some Easter gifts and watch a load of taped TV I normally wouldn’t have the chance to do. There’s a lot to be said for PJ days. I don’t do them enough either.
My spiritual story has been printed for people to vote on. Feeling confident I’ve also entered a Knitting writing comp – just a tale of knitting with someone and some pictures. Plus the rabbits I made yesterday are also up for a competition to win some balls of wool. Maybe one day I’ll have the confidence to enter something for a bigger prize! But everyone has to start somewhere.
Week off work this coming week and possibly linked to that my mood is already better than this time last week despite the snow. I’ve lined up one or two things to do which should give me lots to write about next time including trip to the home of Shakespeare – Stratford Upon Avon
Oh but let’s end on an uplifting note. While typing this up the sun has come out & under the dulcet tones of Bruce Springsteen on my itunes I can hear the birds chirping. Happy Easter!!
I’ve decided to tidy up my blog a little bit and have separate ones for different interests.
So for anyone interested in spirituality and happiness I have It’s all about the Yes (https://kirstywhite33.wordpress.com/)
For book reviews I have For the love of books (http://kirk72.wordpress.com/)
Travel reviews and musings from around the country (http://travelpalooza.wordpress.com/)
And for genealogy and family tree searches that i promise I will update soon I have Family Tree (http://kzwhite.wordpress.com/)
Thanks for reading, liking and following 🙂
This book has nothing to do with my upcoming study module but I’m enjoying writing these reviews. We’re going to discuss the book on our radio book club this evening so I thought I’d type some notes up.
The White Queen is first in a series of four written from a female perspective of the War of the Roses. This first one being told by Elizabeth, a young Lancastrian widow who meets the new young York King Edward. Originally planning to ask for the return of lands lost with the change of power she ends up with those and more as she secretly marries Edward and becomes Queen.
There follows the start of her life as a royal along with her family and their children told over a period of about 25 years.
The short chapters help whiz the story along and make the passage of time fly by. And there is never a dull moment. For the reader, sometimes it’s hard to keep track of all the parties especially as they often switch sides several times. I wonder how the common folk of the time kept up?? This was before internet, before even newspapers. Even Elizabeth herself has to wait weeks for letters just to tell her if she is still the queen! I imagine the general public just got on with their lives and left the royals to it. It’s fun to imagine how Elizabeth would take to internet and being followed by paparazzi of the 21st century. I rather imagine she would love it.
So much has been written about the battles during the War of the Roses it’s nice to see a female perspective. Although my 21st century ways find it hard to digest the gentry only being allowed to marry for duty. To marry for love was considered a sin or a scandal. Both Elizabeth and her mother did this and it’s one of the reasons behind her rivals dislike for her. This theme is re-visited in more detail in the follow up The Red Queen about arch nemesis Margaret Beaufort which I’m reading at the minute.
There is so much that could be said of the book. It’s popularity has led to a TV series on the BBC. I’m enjoying the second book just as much and hope to review it shortly.
Our book club is held monthly and can be found on the South Leeds Community Radio station (link below). There’s the option to listen again and catch up on previous shows (not many, we’re only a new group). Please visit us and help support us.
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Health & Healing Festival 6/7th July – Leeds Elland Road
This is my 3rd Health & Healing festival in the last 12 months. I love going. I remember as a teenager going to what was then known as psychic fairs and having my cards read. Back then before depression kicked in I was also learning to read the tarot & palmistry with a view to treating my friends to readings. At the time I had the interest but not the knowledge to do anything with it.
These last 12 months that learning has been re-awakened. I’m in no rush, the fairs have been enough and I can see a few paths I can take with my own journey but as yet have made no decision which is the main one.
This weekend’s fair came after a horrific week of stress, fear of falling back down the depressive rabbit hole and illness. I was exhausted, fed up and constantly in tears. But after the last visit when the psychic read my body language more than the cards and left me feeling miserable this time I was determined to try and not let anything show. This time I had a more positive experience and got to talk to people who were interested in my spiritual journey.
It’s not only psychics that attend these fairs. There are usually talks from various people. You can buy jewellery and crystals. You can get advice on nutrition and healthy living. I usually avoid these. I’ve no desire to live on over priced milkshakes. However my friend convinced me I had to listen to a talk on how to live on chocolate and lose weight. Sadly she didn’t advocate a life of Mars Bars but rather making your own chocolate from cacao beans and chocolate pudding with chia seeds. My own diet is fairly healthy; I don’t eat red meat and keep an eye on calories. I do need to lose weight and this seems to be the best way for me. Tasting some home made raw chocolate and pudding, I found it horrible. It was earthy; the pudding was crunchy with the seeds. It was definitely not for me and I will stick to calorie counting. However my friend gobbled it up and was last seen spending £17 on the ingredients to make her own chocolate.
It’s also possible to talk to people about exercise. A form of dance called Nia, Tai Chi, and Qi Gong were also there as stall holders. And then there are the alternative therapy practitioners. Still feeling washed out and on the recommendation of my tarot reader I opted for some Reiki, a first experience. She explained what would happen and invited me to lie down covering me with a sheet. Occasionally I felt a light tap but mostly I just had a feeling she was stood or sat near certain parts of the table. Although I could hear the people all around us for the first time ever my own brain was silent. I’m hyperactive or possibly it’s ADHD (I don’t want to be tested), my brain never slows down for a second and I generally I have so much energy I over do things and get ill. So lying there thinking of nothing except how slow I was breathing was weird. Afterwards I felt like I’d awakened from a long sleep. What I thought was a 10 minute lie down was a powerful half hour healing session!
I wasn’t sure at first what, if any, effect as it had but over the next 10 minutes I felt lighter and happier. The feeling of being on the edge of another breakdown had gone. I’m not “cured”. I described the feeling to one friend as being blissed out fed –upness. I do now feel however that this is where my spiritual journey is going to start and have made plan for more sessions but also to attend an Ekhart Tolle stillness session.
So even if you don’t believe in spirits and mysticism these things have something for everyone and you never know what journey you may end on once you have been.