Starting my new business

I haven’t updated this page in 3 months. I’ve been so busy trying to start up my holistic business. Talk about hard work and I’m only aiming for part time alongside my day job (for now).

Anyway just a short post – I’ve got a bunch of posts on my various blogs to do over the next few days but I wanted to share my newest one. This is my business one. I’m really proud of it. It covers the type of things I offer as well as (to me) a fab new book club. It’s based in Leeds but feel free to read the book and leave some comments on the post.

The details of book club are on both a post and it’s own part of the website.

Please feel free to give me a follow and if you are in the are come along and try some treatments



Way of Chakras – Caroline Shola Arewa #bookreview

Well maybe not a proper book review.

This is a comprehensive look at chakras: what they are, how they affect the body, how to use meditation and physical practice to heal a blocked one. I found this a fantastic book to start my journey on learning some healing roles and hopefully becoming a holistic practioner. As well as all the information I found a few quotes that inspired me and I’d like to share:

  • (Time for yourself) This is your special time. Explain to children. It’s good for young children to see their parents take special time.
  • Perceive, believe, achieve
  • Meditation can relieve stress
  • I can… (characteristic of Sacral chakra)
  • I love… (heart chakra)
  • Some yogis live on prana (energy). You may not want to live on prana. I personally prefer the occasional meal
  • If you believe in failure, failure will hold you in its grip
  • Walk in love and light

And finally she ends with a quote from John Lennon whose words sum up what she says is ‘that moment of release when we step off the treadmill and start to simply be…’

I’m just sitting here watching the wheels go

round and round.

I really love to watch them roll,

no longer riding on the merry go round

I just had to let it gooooooo!

This is what I aim to do going forward. Time to step off the merry go round and follow my dreams

Talking to the Universe

I’ve just started reading the surprisingly short book on Cosmic Ordering and it made me think of something that started happening at the beginning of the year.

I’ve a big list of ‘wants’ for this year. I don’t like to call them resolutions, more like things I’d like to happen. For example: I wanted to be fitter and healthier and so far I’ve lost 11.5lbs and walk 10,000 steps every day.

One of the other things I decided to do was start letting people in and also getting out more in able to do this. I have friends and they are very good friends but sometimes you can’t move forward without stepping out of your comfort zone and maybe making a few more. The original plan was to try and do this as cheaply as possible but essentially I was going back to my old plan of saying yes.

Reading this book it could be classed as unintentionally cosmic ordering, it could be asking spirits for help and receiving or it could simply be wishing things into existence. Whatever your belief system – positive thinking breeds positive results.

Simple friendships have blossomed at work – some on a 1to1 basis and again through a night out where we all got to bond. I started going to book clubs and met some wonderful new people there. I joined Weightwatchers and have not only a very supportive group of people wishing me luck but have made a few friendships from it. I was even asked by a woman at work if I wanted to go to dance classes with her.

Not only has it brought new people into my life but opening myself up has brought people back into my life I haven’t seen in years. I went to a school reunion and rediscovered old friendships. I looked into moving my Monday workplace to somewhere new which brought me into contact with my natural fathers cousin, enabling me to reconnect with half brothers and sisters I haven’t seen in 12 years and also bringing me a new cousin I’ve not met yet.

It’s fascinating what one little word can bring. It needs to be done carefully though. In the past I said to too many things then had to learn how to say no all over again but if concentrated in small events such as friendships it should be easy enough to control. I’m looking forward to seeing how these things develop over the rest of the year but also can’t wait to see what else life has in store for me.

To Buy or not To Buy – April Lane Benson, Phd #bookreview

This book took me a while to read. It’s a simple enough book and like some, not full of jargon and psycho-babble but it doesn’t hook you in enough to be one you can’t put down. I often put it to one side to go read something else.

I saw a review that said it was only for people with addictions to shopping and wouldn’t suit anyone else. Well, first the book is aimed solely at over-shoppers so that makes sense to me that it would only be suitable for those people (me formerly included). However for me I think the content would also be suitable for over-eaters and maybe other addictions as well. Not the whole book but you can fit it in to other issues. There are plenty of sections about re-building confidence, mindfulness (more on that in a second) and discovering just why you do the thing you do whether that is buying too much, eating too much, drinking too much..

There are exercises to do and a shopping journal to keep helping you track how you are spending money and hopefully start spotting patterns of behaviour. My favourite one is an exercise to find out your 5 biggest strengths and then use them in some way more positive than overspending. Examples used include a woman whose strength was creativity and joined some pottery classes. She then channelled her energies into making gifts. Other strengths may not be so obvious but it does give you some things to think about.

The bit that I found niggling was the chapter on mindfulness. I have no problem with it and have tried it myself. However it’s starting to feel like the therapy du-jour and like every self help book has it tacked on in an effort to cash in. It’s just not original anymore to see it in a book and I’d like to see a bit more variety.

Overall I enjoyed this book. It’s not the best self help book I’ve read but it does provide some interesting insights into people’s behaviour and I, for one, learnt a few things about mine.

The Queen of Distraction: How Women with ADHD Can Conquer Chaos…Terry Matlen #bookreview

Synopsis: Do you rule the realm of disorganization, clutter, and chaos? Are you constantly battling to get things done? Are you ready to give up and toss your day planner into the dungeon (otherwise known as your closet)? If so, you might just be The Queen of Distraction. And whether or not you’ve been formally diagnosed with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), you probably already know that something’s got to give.  .
Me: Once upon a time someone suggested I may have ADHD. Discussions with my doctor resulted in me still not knowing as I decided against tests. What I do know is I have depression, anxiety and am often chaotic. One of the things I enjoyed most about this book was that while it is aimed at women with ADHD the support, advice and many tips are useful for any woman with a stressful life or mental health problem. In fact in this age where we are expected to have everything, do everything and be a superwoman all whilst looking like a supermodel on the catwalk it’s great to read a book that says it doesn’t matter if you don’t get everything done, if one day you decide to say ‘sod it’ and just feed the kids fish finger sandwiches for tea instead of some culinary masterpiece.

I’ve done some reading up in ADHD in general and where this book differs is by being solely about women – why in some cases they have hypersensitivity to fabrics, why not every woman is addicted to going to the mall and how to get by at work.

Not a reflection about Matlen’s book but I found it sad that in some cases she recommends non-disclosure and not discussing with employers. Maybe I’m naive in my thinking as I have an excellently understanding set of bosses but it saddens me in this day and age that not every employer is supportive.

Like many self help books written by Americans all the links are for America only so you may have to look up your own disability discrimination legislation to see where you stand in terms of employment support and again for education. There’s a slight obsession with plugging her own website although at the end does also supply some further reading and links to follow.

It’s an accessible book, not heavy on jargon and quite easy to read. It helps that Matlen herself has ADHD so understands the audience she’s writing for. Highly recommended and a must read for any woman with ADHD, stress & anxiety suffers or friends of sufferers.

Struggling to be Holy – Judy Hirst

Before Christmas I heard of a new book club, a spiritual one. Always on the look out for something new to try I decided to look them up and see what book they would be reading for this month and give it a go. The book club itself is this weekend and I’m looking forward to it.

Judy Hirst is an Anglican curate and trained counselor in Durham and this small book is really how to cope with some of the issues modern life brings. As a curate these issues can be resolved through prayer and a belief in God which is the bit I originally thought would be a bit off putting but I was pleasantly surprised by how easy it is for a non-Christian to take that part out of the equation and still get a lot from this book.

One part that stood out in the first Chapter was the ability of people to avoid saying just how bad things are for them sometimes, They don’t God to see them as “messy” and that God would only want to hear the good stuff. Isn’t the case in everyday life regardless of religion. I know in my worst depressive days I would often over use the phrase “I’m fine” when in fact I would be close to breaking point. I was convinced (and still am sometimes) that people wouldn’t want to know how bad I was as it wasn’t fun. Even this autumn during a horrific work and money mess I chose not to mention these things when people asked how I was. Who wants to know about my problems?? Well for me, my family and friends, for a Christian according to Judy the answer would be God.

Another good chapter is around forgiveness and moving on. This was quite resonant with me having just read Feel the Fear and do it Anyway as it covers the same issue but comes at it from a different angle. The advice is still the same. We have to learn to forgive ourselves, then forgive others before we can move forward and progress. And for anyone not wishing to help then you have to let those people go.

All in all I think different people will get different things from it but I’m pretty sure all those things will be positive ones

My other blogs   all about the yes and being positive    Travel   family ties

The White Queen – Philippa Gregory

This book has nothing to do with my upcoming study module but I’m enjoying writing these reviews. We’re going to discuss the book on our radio book club this evening so I thought I’d type some notes up.

The White Queen is first in a series of four written from a female perspective of the War of the Roses. This first one being told by Elizabeth, a young Lancastrian widow who meets the new young York King Edward. Originally planning to ask for the return of lands lost with the change of power she ends up with those and more as she secretly marries Edward and becomes Queen.

There follows the start of her life as a royal along with her family and their children told over a period of about 25 years.

The short chapters help whiz the story along and make the passage of time fly by. And there is never a dull moment. For the reader, sometimes it’s hard to keep track of all the parties especially as they often switch sides several times. I wonder how the common folk of the time kept up?? This was before internet, before even newspapers. Even Elizabeth herself has to wait weeks for letters just to tell her if she is still the queen! I imagine the general public just got on with their lives and left the royals to it. It’s fun to imagine how Elizabeth would take to internet and being followed by paparazzi of the 21st century. I rather imagine she would love it.

So much has been written about the battles during the War of the Roses it’s nice to see a female perspective. Although my 21st century ways find it hard to digest the gentry only being allowed to marry for duty. To marry for love was considered a sin or a scandal. Both Elizabeth and her mother did this and it’s one of the reasons behind her rivals dislike for her. This theme is re-visited in more detail in the follow up The Red Queen about arch nemesis Margaret Beaufort which I’m reading at the minute.

There is so much that could be said of the book. It’s popularity has led to a TV series on the BBC. I’m enjoying the second book just as much and hope to review it shortly.

Our book club is held monthly and can be found on the South Leeds Community Radio station (link below). There’s the option to listen again and catch up on previous shows (not many, we’re only a new group). Please visit us and help support us.

South Leeds Community Radio